Addiction is a powerful disease that destroys lives. It can be hard for someone to understand why a person continues using despite negative consequences, and it helps to educate yourself about addiction and the brain in order to gain a better understanding of what your loved one is going through.
One of the more frustrating aspects of addiction is denial. Denial is one of the biggest barriers to getting help, and it isn’t easy to get past.
Sometimes, in order to break through the barrier of denial it is necessary to bring in an outside party to help. This is known as an intervention.
Denial is a defense mechanism. It is a sophisticated set of defenses that allows addiction to continue to thrive in the worst of situations. Layers of denial develop that are both conscious and unconscious and can be so thick it seems they cannot be penetrated. An addict will employ many of the following denial tactics to avoid dealing with their problem and protect their addiction:
It can be disconcerting to say the least to see your loved one’s displaying dishonest, manipulative and hostile behavior.
Your loved one may be quite successful at manipulating you, guilting you, intimidating you or using rationalization or justification to convince you that they are still in control or are going to get help. This is where your loving relationship with them can hurt more than it can help. You are too close to the situation, and they know how to get under your skin. Sometimes, you must step back in order to help.
The first and most important thing you can do for your loved one is to be sure you aren’t in denial yourself. It is painful to have to acknowledge your loved one has a problem, and it is also frightening. It can sometimes feel easier to just hope that it will go away, or that it isn’t as bad as you think. Be honest with yourself and see the situation for what it is.
The next step is to be sure you are not enabling the addiction and behaviors that go with it. This is not easy. Sometimes, in order to not support the addiction you have to take what seems like harsh action. You may have to withdraw financial support or keep your loved one out of the home. Sometimes, a person must experience their own consequences in order to finally make a change. Protecting them from themselves may only prolong their illness.
In many cases, the best thing you can do is to seek outside help. While they are the one with the disease of addiction, getting help for yourself can help to keep you sane and also help the rest of the family. There are many resources for family members of addicts.
When you have done your best to get through to your loved one but they are not getting it, or when you fear that they are endangering themselves or others, it is time to seek help through an intervention. Here are some signs that an intervention is necessary:
These are some examples of situations that call for an intervention. You don’t have to wait for things to get worse before you get help.
An intervention doesn’t just help the person who is addicted, it provides support and resources for the whole family. Addiction is a family disease. When you reach out to an intervention service you are immediately connected with a supportive, knowledgeable professional who can help you get through this difficult situation. Intervention works, and over 90% of interventions result in the addicted person getting help.
If you are ready to help your loved one, and yourself, contact Intervention Services, Inc. and make an appointment to meet with an interventionist. He or she will sit down with you and your family and with your help will create a plan for intervention that is suited to the needs of your family and your loved one. Help begins as soon as you pick up the phone. Call 1-877-478-4621 today and begin the healing process.